Most people assume that they know whether they are happy or not, but in reality, judging our own happiness can be very difficult. There is often a disconnect between what our brains are telling us and what we actually feel. We tell stories about the things we think should make us happy, but sometimes, when we look a bit closer, we’re not really that happy at all. We simply need rules to live a happier life, here are 5 of them.
1. Love Yourself.
Self-love is the greatest challenge and blockage to happiness. Remind yourself that you are worth loving. Many people tend to get insecure about themselves, when in all reality we are all human beings! Always believe in yourself, and be the confident, optimistic you. Taking responsibility for loving yourself fills your heart with love, which you can then share with others.
2. Smile More.
If you are feeling down or having a rough day, it is possible to cheer yourself up by simply thinking of a person, place or situation that makes you smile! Smiling is a reward, not a risk. The only thing we risk when smiling is giving ourselves a little more happiness.
3. Always forgive.
Forgiveness does not mean that what happened was ok, it just means you no longer want to carry the pain. When we hold on to anger, resentment and fear towards people, they are actually occupying a space inside of us, blocking us from feeling truly happy and fulfilled. Forgiveness is the experience of peacefulness in the present moment.
4. Learn when to say “NO”.
One of the most transformational skills in our careers (and life) is saying no to requests that do not truly support or inspire us. For most of us, saying no is exceedingly difficult. We seem to say yes to everything. By saying yes to too many things, we may be saying no to some very important things. If our plate is too full, there’s no room for the unexpected or ideal opportunity. If our fences aren’t strong, everything gets in.
5. Be positive.
People who are positive tend to be happier, healthier and cope better when times are tough. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Look for a bright side in every situation. We will find that there are surprising benefits within them. If we do this long enough, it will become habitual, and it’ll make a tremendous difference in improving our positive thinking skills. Say “I can!” more than “I can’t!” Remember, everything can be framed positively; make a relentless effort to do so.